No Names, No Pack Drill: phoenikxs answered: While you are entitled to your opinion, how about...
phoenikxs answered: While you are entitled to your opinion, how about you STOP TAGGING YOUR HATE! Basic tumblr etiquette. Not that hard to follow.
I’ll stop tagging my hatred of a cruel, abusive character and the way he manifests in fic whenever we can finally go 24 hours without someone…
What even?! How does your reponse and especially your tags even have anything to do with my original reply? No one is calling Mary a bitch. Or does writing Mary/Richard fanfic somehow equate belittling Mary in your mind?
Just let people write fanfic on whatever topic the choose. No one is forcing you to read it. But that might be too mature an act for a person who thinks “don’t tag your hate” doesn’t apply to her unless it’s in the TOS and who tagged her post with #HATEY HATEY HATE HATE
Let’s see: the tags relate because Mary & Richard are the characters under discussion, and I hate one of them.
Plenty of people call Mary a bitch. If you wanna whine at people for tagging their hate while you play tumblr police, hop on over to the Mary Crawley tag. You should have an opportunity to issue a ticket every tenth post or so. I put up with unfounded Mary hate in her tag every single day. When people call her a bitch, I respond with a list of canon-supported reasons why they’re wrong—not with “DON’T TAG YOUR HATE.” Richard-fans should expect to put up with some hate because that’s what happens when you stan an abusive blackmailer. Since they can’t post a contradiction of the fact that he’s an abusive asshat using canon evidence, they have to resort to tag-policing, victim-blaming, and denial.
People can write fanfic about whatever they want, I’m not stopping them. But fanfics about Mary Crawley getting back with her abuser after being widowed, or about a Mary Crawley who loves to f*ck Richard because he bought her a pretty [whatever] are fair game for criticism, just as much as Downton Abbey itself is. It’s disturbing that in 2013 people still want to make excuses for abuse, even if it’s “just fictional.” Fiction and our reaction to it says a lot about who we are as a people and where we are culturally, so it’s notably sad that in 2013 there are women who swoon at the idea of a man as cruel as Richard. (This applies to Matthew somewhat as well, but you’ve never whined at me for tagging THAT hate, hypocrite.)
“Don’t tag your hate” doesn’t actually apply to anyone because it’s not actually a binding rule on tumblr. It’s just something little tumblr-mall-cops like you enjoy “enforcing” as you praise yourselves for how “mature” you are.
Basically, what you’re saying is, you’re tagging your hate because you have to put up with people tagging their hate on the Mary tag? How biblical of you. And saying Richard fans should expect hate is just complete and utter bullshit. Everyone is free to like and root for whomever they want without getting hate for it!
How anyone can call Richard “Mary’s abuser” is absolutely beyond me. And if you’d ever bothered to read one the fanfics you bad-mouth, then you’d know that no one is “making excuses for abuse”. Far from it. No one is claiming they had a perfect relationship, and some of Richard’s actions have undoubtedly been more than questionable. That’s why many of us Richard/Mary fans (yes, there are more than a handful of us, shocking, right?) have answered questions as to why we ship them repeatedly and at length with what bascially boils down to us loving the idea of what the Richard/Mary relationship could have been. I won’t bother linking you to those posts, because I’m sure you won’t care.
Also, I most definitely didn’t whine when I politely told you to not tag your hate.